If you’re dating a Ukrainian single and she has a child, then you’re going to want to know how to become the best stepdad you can possibly be.
When you enter a new relationship with a single mother, it can be a little intimidating if you have not had children of your own. However, it’s important to remember that your Ukrainian single will also be nervous of telling dates that she has a child.
Once you’re comfortable with the idea of taking this relationship forward, you’re going to need to give some thought as to how you can be a good stepdad to her child. This can be from afar if you are not yet living with one another, or in-person if you are fortunate enough to be living with, or near to, your Ukrainian single.
So, to help you on your way, here are a few tips which will help you to become a good stepdad:
Be enthusiastic about her child
As we alluded to earlier in this article, your Ukrainian single may find it hard approaching a new relationship as a single mother. So, the first tip is to be both supportive and really enthusiastic about the child and what part he or she will play in your relationship. Ask questions to find out more about them and be visibly interested when she talks about him or her.
Involve the child in your plans together
A great way of ensuring you will become a real hit as a stepdad is to make sure that plenty of the plans you make with your Ukrainian single involve her child. Days out, new houses, holidays, shopping trips – you name it, whatever you’re doing or planning should involve the child.
Include them in conversations and ask how he/she is
Whenever you speak with your Ukrainian single, ask how her child is. If the child is present or on calls when you’re together, then try talking to them directly so that they grow a bond with you and feel welcome.
Remember to send cards and gifts for birthdays and occasions
Being a stepdad is also about the simpler things in a child’s life – presents. Whether it’s birthday or Christmas, Easter or Halloween, make sure you send presents for her child and you will fast become a favourite!
Finally, whether it’s in-person or online, children love to play games. So, if you want to be a great stepdad, play the games as well and offer to set new games up. Basically, you want the child to see you as a friendly father figure and do the things a dad would usually do.